When They Parent You Back

I've been singing the blues lately.

About two months ago, I had an incredibly painful sore throat accompanied by a day and a half fever.  When all was well again, I found that I couldn't sing some of the notes that I used to.  OK, a lot of the notes that I used to.  I pride myself on being a high soprano and I love to sing, so as the months went on and the notes weren't back, it got a bit depressing.

I was asked recently to sing a solo for a meeting at church and I thought I could do it.  I pulled out a song I had done before and that would be perfect for the message of the meeting.  The other day as I was practicing, I was pretty frustrated.  I was on the verge of calling off the number completely.  I didn't like facing the fact that I could no longer perform a piece that I had loved so well.

I came out to our family room to look at the music again, and Bethelle approached me.

"Mom, can I tell you something?     ...      About Cat in the Hat?"

Well, I don't know.  I'm trying to figure out this song right now...

"Sure, Honey.  What is it?"

"The kids on Cat in the Hat were trying to sing a song and they just couldn't get in right.  The Cat in the Hat took them to the whale.  Do you know what they learned?  It's not how you sing that matters, it's what you're saying in the song."

Thank you, Bethelle.  She's so right.  And do you know what else?  It's not how wide your vocal range is that matters, it's how your kids grow and learn and face challenges.  And how they help others to do the same.

Friends Worth Emulating

Bethelle and Rigby are excellent playmates.  They love to dress up and pretend.  Most days, they can be found calling each other names of famous-to-them pairs: Cinderella and Prince Charming, Aurora and Prince Phillip, Anastasia and Demetrius, Super Girl and Superman, or Peter Pan and Wendy.  The rest of the family is then projected with appropriate characters.  Recently, we have been Captain Hook, Tinkerbell, and Wendy's mom (whoever that is...).

Last Friday, they were running around pretending, as usual.  And then I caught on to the names.  They were our dear friends Tom and Alaina, for whom they were flower girl and ringer bearer a year ago!  I never would have come up with that option, but I love how creative those kids are and how they show love for some of their real life heroes.

You can see why Tom and Alaina have attained Prince and Princess status to my children.

They're Watching...

Curie likes to be where I am.  She is often content to play next to me, which is a blessing, as the other two liked to be held.

As I was ripping lettuce for tonight's salad, Curie was at my feet, whining to be held.  I slipped her a small lettuce leaf to chew, hoping that it would buy me some time at the salad spinner.  When I next looked down, here is what I saw.

I did not give her that bowl.

Looks like we'll have extra salad tonight, if anyone wants to join us for dinner.

Birthday Shots

I had a couple headshots taken of Rigby and Curie to mark their birthdays, and Bethelle came along for the ride.  I can't believe how much the two younger kids have matured since our portraits in March (see the blog header above).

Here is my sweet Curie.

And my handsome Rigby.  What a heartbreaker.

And my big girl, Bethelle.

I just love them.  How could I help it?

Thank you, Aderyn Photography!

Our Next Stage

He did it!  He did it!  He did it!  He did it!  He did it!  He did it!

Nice work, Nick!

For almost two years, Nick and I have been planning on a temporary move to San Fran, contingent upon getting a promotion that leads to training in the Bay Area.  The earliest that could happen would be January.  We have made many big decisions and future plans based on this move.

All along the way, co-workers have been telling us that Nick is a shoe-in, we don't need to worry, etc.  Then we found out that there were over 200 applicants, but only 33 positions.  If we didn't get in now, we could not try again until June.

For the lasts few weeks, Nick has been interviewing and testing locally and in San Francisco.  And today we got the great news!  All our planning and Nick's hard work have paid off.

Nick feels blessed to work for such a great company and hopes to be with them for the duration of his career.

Congrats, Nick!

A Plug for Power

I recently blew the dust off of a piece of my childhood with this favorite:

... and the accompanying music found here.

Every little kid should be listening to this music.  Check out the song titles:

• 1. Attitude
• 2. Trying Again
• 3. Enthusiasm
• 4. Determination
• 5. Patriotism
• 6. Industry
• 7. Integrity
• 8. Family
• 9. Dreaming
• 10. Courage
• 11. Cheerfulness
• 12. Caring
• 13. Creativity
• 14. Sportsmanship
• 15. Overcoming

The title of this collection struck me recently.  I generally loath the word, "power."  I think of it as referring to power over someone, generally taken rather than given.  I think of power struggles and power grabbing, abuse of power and power hungry.  But look at those song titles again.  These are the sources of real, righteous power.  Enthusiasm.  Patriotism.  Industry.  Caring.

The book and music have been a real hit at our house.  My kids have me turn on the "tunes" and then sit with the book through the whole album.  The songs are then stuck in our heads for the rest of the day, but they're not annoying.  Instead, they are reminders to care and to overcome.

I can remember calling these songs and images to memory as a child when faced with decisions, and I've heard the same from others who also grew up with these.

I don't think that the book is published anymore, but buy a used one.  It makes the experience complete and more interesting for kids.  It involves them completely in the message, rather than as a passive song in the background.

And let me know how it goes over with your kids if you take my advice.  You won't regret it!

Baby Tears

Curie is quickly becoming a picky eater.  She loves fruit and any kind of treat (which are very new in her life).  Oh, and cheese.  She loves most common cheeses.  That's about it.  She's not big on breads, vegetables, or meat.

Her pickiness has been escalating lately, so last night we gave her strained beef stew (from Deceptively Delicious, so yummy!).  It had tons of veggies and beef.  She wouldn't even touch it.  She cried and cried and we wouldn't budge.  Eventually, we got her out of her chair, but whenever she acted hungry that evening, which was often, we only gave her back her stew.

I did give her milk, as usual, before bed, but she was a very sad camper last night.

And then I did it again today at lunch time.  She went down for her nap very sad again.  I do keep offering food, but she won't take what I'm giving her.

It's OK, right?  I'm being a good mommy, right?

It seems that whenever I have applied the stick-to-it approach to parenting (taking away the pacifier, sleeping through the night, or teaching that Mommy is making dinner and you need to play on your own now), it has generally taken about three sad days to accomplish the task.

But she will eat if she needs to, right?